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Dear Leader

As you prepare for your Life Group this week, can I encourage you to spend some time waiting quietly before the Lord. It is easy to get caught up in the busyness of life, and to rush into your LG meeting. Preparing the content for the meeting and working through the guideline is important, but more important is your own personal time with the Lord and the strength He gives (Isaiah 40:31).


Allow for a time of connecting and fellowship over tea/coffee.

Icebreaker: What was the highlight of your week?


Select some songs that will allow your group to really adore the Lord.


Theme – Controlling the tongue / Wisdom from heaven
Read James 3

1. Recognize the crucial role your tongue plays

Some people's lives have ended up going completely off course because they didn't bridle their tongue. Our tongue needs to be going in a direction that is life giving and under control of the Holy Spirit. In verse 2 we read that if you can control your tongue you can control your whole body.

Read James 3:3-6

Discussion 1: Reflect on a bit in a horse's mouth, a rudder of a ship, and a small spark; and discuss how these images powerfully warn us to control out tongues?

2. Our words contain either creative or destructive power

Proverbs 18:21 "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat it's fruit."

There are people who are eating the fruit of years of speaking life. And there are people who are struggling with damage in their lives after years of speaking death.

Read James 3:5-6 in the Message Bible

Discussion 2: Reflect on the power of the tongue in terms of speaking life or death over yourself, your children, our country. Ask LG members to share good or bad memories about words spoken over them. How can we endeavour to speak life in any and every situation?

3. Before words are spoken they are conceived in the heart

Luke 6:45 'For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks'

Sometimes when you are bumped, what is in your heart spills over.

Discussion 3: What are some things we can do to keep our hearts right so that our speech is live giving?

4. Speak from your redeemed nature not your old nature

When the fall of man took place we came under the control of the sinful nature, and this impacted out tongues. In our own strength we cannot control our tongues. But God empowers us to bring the tongue under control. We have been crucified with Christ. So we can have victory over the old nature.

Read Colossians 3:8-9 and Ephesians 4:23-24

3 fold test before speaking. Ask yourself:
Is it true?
Is it necessary?
Does it build up?

Discussion 4: Which of the following do you struggle with – Criticising, Complaining, Cursing (Swearing)?

5. Live a life that displays the wisdom from heaven

Read James 3:17

No need to discuss this. Just read it in one or two different versions of the Bible and allow the Holy Spirit to work.


Prayer time and ministry to one another in line with the message.


Purposefully speak life over your spouse, your children, and those you interact with this week.

Kind regards

Bruce Taylor
Pastoral Support - Life Groups

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